To know or not to know…
Well, I’m 21 weeks pregnant today and last week I had my milestone 20 week scan. We were undecided right up until the day of the scan if we wanted to know the sex of our baby. First time round we didn’t find out and I loved keeping everyone guessing, including myself. It definitely kept me going through the labour! First time, I had a strong feeling it was a boy, and amazingly most people guessed a boy too (and we were all right!) Why do people do that?! As soon as you have a bump everyone has a sixth sense and tells you what you are having! I love it really, people’s theories about the way you carry or the age-old ring test over the bump. Surely these are all myths! Entertaining all the same.
One of my most vivid memories of the birth of Teddy was the midwife passing him to me and asking me to look and see for myself if he was a boy or a girl. It was a special moment as I announced, “it’s a boy!”.
I think when you made the decision not to find out first time it feels strange to find out second time – because it goes against all the things you believed or told yourself. But, every pregnancy is different, and the way we feel changes too. So I did a lot of thinking about the pros and cons…
Reasons to find out the sex of your baby:
- When you find out you get two surprises – one at 20 weeks when you hear if it’s a boy or girl, and one at 40 weeks when you get to meet them for real and see what they look like
- Knowing who’s in there can help some couples develop a bond with their baby
- To prepare yourself, in case you have a yearning for a boy or a yearning for a girl – this is human nature
- Practical reasons – if you are the type who needs to get organised
- If this is your second or third child you may choose to find out to help your older children bond with their new sibling
Reasons to keep the sex of your baby a surprise:
- It’s one thing in life that was meant to be a surprise
- Guessing is fun and not knowing drives people crazy
- It allows you to focus on what’s important and not worry too much about the colour of the nursery – yellow and green are lovely colours too!
- It keeps you going during labour
- Because ignorance is bliss (for some!)
So you’re probably wondering, did we find out?! Yes we did!…and…it’s a boy! A little bundle of deliciousness and a special brother for Teddy. Here is my reason for knowing, and now I will be totally honest. I knew that deep down I had a secret wish for a girl, because I’m a girl, and I think I make a nice daughter! Other than that, I don’t know why I felt a wanted a girl, although I’m sure most people have some thoughts like this, but rarely admit them (because ultimately, we all know that we are blessed to be having a baby and absolutely the most important thing is their health). I wanted to make sure that I would feel only overwhelming joy at the birth, and that is why I decided to find out. I am totally contented and thrilled to be having a boy – a playmate for Teddy, and two strapping lads for me. And boys really do love their mums.
Keep an eye on the Lulibelle blog. Coming soon…what to wear as your bump continues to grow
Did you find out the sex of your baby or decide not to? What were the reasons for your decision? We’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments box below.