So it’s been a few months since I updated you on my life, and it’s been a bit crazy, so here goes…
10 weeks ago I took the boys to crazy golf, it was the first sunny day of the year and it seems everyone had the same idea as us as it’s outdoor. The queue from where you pay to the first hole was 45 minutes long! About 15 minutes into it I got chatting to the little girl next to me who was there with her dad, it was her birthday day out and she was super excited. We all ended up doing the course together and by the end of it I was actually a bit gutted that it was over, we had spent the whole 2 hours laughing our heads off, the kids were getting on brilliantly and it was really fun. We walked to the over flow carpark and were parked next to each other and his daughter asked if we’d go for dinner with them for her birthday, the kids were excited at the thought so I said yes, we ended up having dinner and then shopping. It was the perfect day. He sent me a message later that night asking me to go on a date with him. The 10 weeks that have followed have just been amazing. He makes me laugh constantly, even when I’m at my lowest, he is always there for me when I need him (even though I have a proper bee in my bonnet at the moment about not needing anyone!!), my kids absolutely adore him and miss him when he isn’t here, I love his kids to bits and when I’m not with him I feel like a part of me is missing. He has fast become my best friend, I can talk to him about anything and he just puts the biggest smile on my face. He has the same stupid sense of humour as me which probably isn’t a good thing as the jokes always go too far since neither of us are sensible enough to stop them, as was evident by him and his eldest son throwing a spider under the bedroom door at me last week!
As would be expected after everything I’ve gone through, my amazing friends are worried about me getting hurt again, people have been worrying about things moving too quickly.
So, my question is, is there such a thing as relationships moving too quickly? Is it too soon for us to be talking about our future together? My point on this topic is that I was with my husband for 13 years and it turns out I didn’t know him at all, so if this feels right, is making me and the kids happy and we’re all on the same page, does it matter that it’s only been a couple of months? How can anyone know that they’ll both move forwards at the same speed and always want the same things out of life? Time together doesn’t equal the amount of love between those people or even trust. If it feels right, then surely you should just go for it? There is no guarantee in any relationship that it will last forever, whether you’ve been together for 1 year or 20. Had the kids not been with us when we met I maybe wouldn’t have introduced them by now, but they were and this is just how things have worked out and I have to say, it has made things so much easier knowing from the start that they like him and that all the kids get along together.
The main thing for me is that my boys are happier than I’ve seen them in a long time, I’m happier than I ever thought possible this time 10 months ago. I would never knowingly put their happiness at risk, but I don’t see that longevity of a relationship guarantees that surety anyway.
I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences on this, please let me know what you think?
I also love receiving emails and messages from men and women going through similar experiences, it’s good to rant it out with people who understand what you’re going through so please keep them coming!
Love as always,
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